It is so good I think we should all have it hanging somewhere we can look at it regularily.
At the centre of it is having a goal. AJ refers to this as your PRW, no matter you must be persuing something.
I find myself in an odd spot with the herd these days.
My sense of direction is strong and sure. I feel very alone.....
I am a fixer. Its not that I want to interfere, its that I cannot stand to see people I care about in pain of any sort.
What I am seeing is a lot of overwhelm amongst most of the team.
So I begin to question. What has caused this?
Were we all so immersed in the the first 90 days of RTP and reveling in success that we were simply able to push away these other problems?
It was fairly all consuming and very heady to finally find relief. That relief for me came in finally losing the weight and regaining a sense of self. But most of it came from the connections we made. It was grounding to be part of a group.
I do not have the same responsibilites as the rest of you so my life stays as it is. It would seem for many, real life has once again stepped in.
So what now? None of you are ready to throw in the towel so how do you find a new goal and focus?
One that works in Real life, Real time!
I think some of the overwhelm comes from not being able to continue. To keep the focus on accomplishing your fitness and health goals.
When you did your 90 days you did it on your own, with the focus on you. Commonly the cry was It's time for me.
I think the time has come to find a way to make this work. In real time.
Below are links to Jack Canfields the Success principles.
Great PDF's for goal setting and chunking it down.
I think we need to look at this from the position we are in now. We have come a long way and we have done it together.
So now the need is to revise what you know you must do, with how it must fit in with your real life. We are out here alone, with just the 10 of us.
How do we make this work? We have graduated from the SS, now we need to support each other into the real world.
Revisit, revise, revisualize.
We will not be the group that gets eaten by the giant donut of guilt.
Shredder code still applies.
I want to hear from you!
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The key is becoming more comfortable with continual change and less comfortable with staying the same.
I'm hear and I hear you load and clear! The focus for the first 90 days was very intense - almost an obsession - things have to move and shift in order to change - otherwise for me the pressure become too much to deal with on a day to day basis! Sadly but true the needs of others do come before myself! I admit that, but this to me is life - without me putting the needs of others first I would not have those others.
ReplyDeleteI think this is the stage of self exploration - almost soul searching for inspiration that this can be more than 90 days!
Nice reminder thanks - Hopefully you have now heard me! :)
So how do we proceed? How do we find a way as a group to pick up some momentum and get moving? Where can we find a common place to be held accountable or "confess". As far as feeling overwhelmed, this week I have been content to focus on my eating, and acknowledged that the exercise was not happening. Today I did get to the gym. But I didn't have the stress I had while doing the SS competition. After reading your blog yesterday, though, I know continual change and challenge needs to continue! Where? How?
ReplyDeleteI am right there with you Rachel. It is not as though I have forgotten how important my/our continued transformation is. However, I am inundated with tasks to do and an overall sense of overwhelm. I feel that I have a need to chunk everything down to make it more doable...but that ironically takes time. As for my transformation, I am motivated but feel that I needd proper reflection time to again hone in on the "why".
ReplyDeleteI agree, and would love a communal spot to air all and seek communal sharing of brainstorming and suggestions on how we can all become the best we can all be. Right now, there is Jace's spot...but if everyone does not participate, we continue to not have a home to stay accountable...besides free-stylin it through e-mails and phone chats with Cindi.
I am all ears on suggestions - count me in.