Seeing yourself as a victim

I am amazed and love the way listening to others perspectives, makes me see my own.

In Big mind, big Heart they remind us of this. E Tolle hits on it as well.
What's terrific about listening to 100 authors is, that its likely at least one of their perspectives will resonate with you and give you the words that help it make sense to you.

Because the only perspective you can change is your own.

I have spent years fighting this fact. It allowed me to continue to see myself as a victim. People simply were not getting it right, if they did they would agree with me and my life would not be so much of a struggle.
Echart Tolle tells you that if you learn to listen to what your mind is saying without taking ownership of it that one day you will be able to laugh at what you hear. I just laughed at what I wrote.
When I spoke earlier of others perspectives I was not referring to the authors. I was referring to blog posts, comments and twitter.
Several things happen when I read some of these.
Sometimes I feel the old defensiveness arise and have to remind myself that others opinions are just that, and they can have one and it does not affect me. Well I can chose to not let it affect me.
Mostly I identify with where they are in their lives and hope for them that they are able to  move from victim to surviver soon.
I remind myself I was there not too long ago and what a horrible place it is. Filled with angst and anger at all things but at the end of it all mostly at ones self.
I remind myself to be empathetic and gentle and mostly thankful.
Thankful that I was able to move myself past victim, into surviver and then on to thriver.

If I can show you one thing its to listen to your words. Look at what you write, look at the words you use.
Do you find a lot of negative things there? Do you feel everyone else has it easier and for you its just hard?
Do you think no one else gets it?
What I have learned from my own journey was that when I believed I was a victim that I was right.

 "Whether you think you can or whether you think you can't, you're right."

 Henry Ford

Stillness of the mind is not a gift I ever expected to receive. I understand now that the action to receive it needed to be mine.

I truly wish this gift upon all who seek it.